I'd just been explaining my plan to blog about Fifty Shades of Grey and the myriad of ways it's fucked up. Talking about it tends to make for a very agitated Georgeanna so the boyfriend had good reason to be concerned.
Here's why I'm doing it. It's not because I'm offended that the writing is bad. I'm not too bothered by the fact that it is considered to have graphic sex scenes even though the heroine consistently refers to her vagina as "down there" although that did amuse me greatly. Girl has a butt plug used on her and still can't say the word for where said plug is.
No, the thing that offends me is the book's taking BDSM and using it to mask a horribly controlling and abusive relationship. It's a story of a man who before the series is out will assume it is his right to control what his girlfriend eats, do a background check on her (including learning her bank account numbers), stalk her constantly, ignore her boundaries, follow her across the country after she she explicitly tells him not to, arrange for her to get a birth control method that she doesn't want, buy the company she works for so he can "keep her safe", and, while certainly not the worst, my personal "favorite"L punish her because she won't let him finger her at the dining room table while they are eating with her best friend, Christian's siblings and his parents.
This is not romantic. Considering how often in the first book sex ends with Ana alone in a room crying I don't even know you're supposed to wank to it.
Initially, my plan was to do a chapter by chapter breakdown, but that's been done already. (Personal favorite recappers are Pervocracy's blog and the amazing Jenny Trout's posts.) So instead of doing the permanent damage to my soul that such an endeavor would cause, I'm going to take a different tack. I'm going to pick some different topics and compare how they are handled in the book vs. how they work in my life.
Some of these will be funny posts. Some of them will be rage inducing. Also, for the first time in the history of this blog, at least one of them will have a trigger warning. So you guys have that to look forward to.
We'll start off light - the first entry will be about hard limits. Feel free to suggest other topics below or tweet them to me @GBingley.